Are you the "rock" for your children and family? Are you the one that is there for them no matter what? Even if they slam the door in your face, do you still try? Raising children is HARD!! Living with a rebellious teen is just about impossible. Every time we as mammas get yelled at, ignored, insulted, doors slammed in our face, or whatever….we still try. We still stand strong for those we live with. Why do we try so hard? Because of one little word….LOVE.
We try over and over, time after time, because of love. It's that simple. We don't expect much from anyone. We just want them to know how much we love them - no matter what.
I recently came across a video clip from Marc Mero. He is a Christian motivational speaker who addresses the issues of bullying, suicide prevention, substance abuse, goal setting, dreaming big, making positive choices and achieving your highest potential. He is a former WWC and WWE Wrestling Champion, and has an extraordinary ability to connect with students and people of all ages and walks of life.
From what I can tell in this video, he is talking to a group of High School/Middle School aged students. I'm also pretty sure it was filmed during one of the school's "Red Ribbon Week" or "White Ribbon Week" awareness assemblies. How can I tell this? Cuz he is telling the kids about the dangers of what drugs and alcohol can do to mess up your life. How drugs and alcohol can take away everything from you without you really knowing what precious gifts are being stripped from your life.
He then tells about his "rock" that stood by him at all times. His mother. No matter what he did to her, she still tried. She never gave up on her son.
I have included the video link in this post. PLEASE take the next six minutes to watch it. Have some tissues-or a shirt sleeve- handy, cuz you are gonna need it. It don't matter if you are male or female, you will be touched by what is said in this video. Go ahead. I'll wait.
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I love what he said at the end of the video of all that he learned about his mother and his choices that effected his life:
"All she ever wanted to do was to talk to me,…. If you have a mother or a father, tell them how much you love them,…See, my whole life was about being rich and famous, that's all I cared about. I had to win the race at the expense of my marriage, my family, [and] my friends. That's not how it was intended to be…..I learned what is truly important, and that is how precious this gift of life is, and how quickly it could be taken away. ... I no longer live in time. I live in moments. I'm not worried about tomorrow. You see, it's not what's in your pocket that matters, it's what's in your heart that truly matters. Love, love is just a word, until somebody comes along and gives it meaning. You are the meaning."
Mamma, your life may be super tough right now, but in time your family will see just how important you are in their life. They will see you through "new eyes" and realize just how strong you have been in your standards, teaching, training, and love for them. You will be seen as the one person who never gave up on them. And I guarantee, they will love you more than you can ever imagine.
Daddy, if you are reading this, please help your children see how important their mamma is to them. To accomplish this, you must show them just how important she is to you. Don’t throw the mother of your child "under the bus" by your thoughtless actions and words. Make sure your children see you treating their mamma with the respect that she is entitled to. She works hard to make your life easier. She often times puts her life on hold just so she can support you and the things that you deem "important". She is the one that keeps the children fed, the house from burning to the ground, and clothes in your closet - as well as the many other demands that are placed on her shoulders day after day.
If you are a young adult, or an older child reading this post, I hope you will take the time to see your mamma for who she really is. She worries about you daily - sometimes every minute of the day. I don't care if you are making wrong or right choices - your mamma worries about you. She loves you with a love so complete that there aren't enough words to describe the love she has for you. Also remember that that love comes out in many ways. If it comes out harsh or scolding it is because she is afraid for you and that she doesn't know how to help you through the trial you are facing - but she desperately wants the chance to try to help. If it comes out silly it's because she is overjoyed at your accomplishments and wants to celebrate with you. If it comes out tender it's because she has connected with your spirit and is trying to communicate to your soul.
A mamma's love is one step away of feeling God's love in the physical form - meaning a mamma was given to you from God so he could give you a hug here on earth.
Mamma, be the "rock" for your family. Keep on trying no matter what. Your reward in heaven will be worth it. Seek for God's strength when the times get tough, but don't you ever give up! Your family loves you back, they just need time to realize just how much they love you.